Presented in the annals of female solipsism (self-centeredness for the unliterate)…this article!
Last week, the NY Post decided to publish this inane little solipsism, in which it is claimed that broke American men are hurting marriage prospects for American women, the reasoning being that…well, women don’t want to “marry down” by being saddled with some schlub with a shitty job and no prospects for the future.
Now, some of you are probably not good at “reading between the lines” (public school fails us again!) so, I’ll clarify what this article is actually saying:
“American men are struggling financially and have no prospects for career advancement. But you know who’s the *most* adversely affected by this? Women!”
On many occasions I’ve defended my country women from the idiotic sex tourists who fill the manosphere with their “hurr durr the only good women are to be found in some Montagnard village without running water” nonsense, but this article was…not Western woman’s finest hour.
I’m sorry, but how goddamn self-centered do you have to be to see that 50% of your country’s employable adults are stuck in a rut, and the only thing you can think of is “Ew, I can’t marry any of those guys”?!
Make no mistake about it, there are a lot of shitty, immature men out there, men that embody solipsism themselves—the “fuckboy and incel menace” is indeed the bane of the modern woman’s dating life, as numerous articles will attest.
But despite what the women think, men don’t just get up and decide to be fuckboys or incels for their own amusement. I would argue that the current apathy and malaise of man is due to the forces of society placing men into this mold. Like most things, this is not due to deliberate malice but rather due to sloth, apathy, and stupidity.
For the past half century, women have been complaining about the pay gap—and let’s assume for a minute that it is 100% true. So now, solipsism kicks in again: we have the situation where many women ARE, in fact, out-earning men and getting higher educational attainment than men and…they hate it. Women despise being in this situation! And I don’t blame them, you can’t overcome 100,000 years of evolution that desires high status men with a few decades of social engineering.
Related to this, I feel that a lot of men are apathetic because in their eyes: there’s no point. The jobs that exist cater towards a female mindset and everything in the culture disparages men and masculinity. So a lot of men do feel there’s no point to trying. Couple that with the fact that the culture also encourages women to be wastrels that have sex wantonly, a lot of men feel that there are no good women to be married to.
Now, I am of course very lucky that I have found a woman worthy of long term commitment (and she is equally devoted to yours truly), but I do sympathize with the sexual losers of society who have not and likely will not find the same.
To clarify for anybody reading this, I’m not saying I don’t want women having jobs and achievements—I’m saying that understanding anthropology is the key. Women DO want men who “have it going on”. Women are hypergamous by nature, and thus we cannot have a culture in which men are implicitly encouraged to be layabout manchildren working dead end jobs and with no other aspirations besides porn and video games. That too is solipsism in the “rich inner life” vein.
We should encourage men to study, learn, and achieve high status careers just as we do our girls. And don’t tell me that there’s equal pushing for men’s education, because there isn’t. You don’t see constant billboards pushing men to study as you do with women.
Joseph De Maistre said “Every nation gets the government it deserves”, and some snarky SOB said that every nation gets the women it deserves. If we encourage our daughters to chase after scumbags and “bad boys” (and we do), don’t complain about there not being any marriageable men. You’ve basically subsidized them to not put in any effort beyond the bare minimum.
It seems to me right now that the average American man and woman deserve each other; the fuckboy whose only hobbies are video games and meaningless sex deserves the stereotypical hag who violently resists the very thought of cooking for her man…or for that matter, the incel deserves the obnoxious bint who’s first reaction to hearing about the doldrums of her country is to think “Who will I marry?”
The manosphere and the…womanosphere (if there’s a better name, please tell me) seem pretty similar to me—they’re both waddling around screaming about I CAN’T FIND A MARRIAGE PARTNER. Well, what have you done to be worthy of a marriageable partner?
A lot of ancient men who were a lot smarter than me have said something along the lines of “Why does thou beholdest the mote in thine brother’s eye, but ignore the beam in your own?” Or “those in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones”. The point is, criticizing people for the same thing that you’re guilty of has apparently been done for thousands of years, and the fact that I have to say it again shows that it’s likely not going to go away. But let’s hope for the best.