Before we can answer this question, we have to discuss new year’s resolutions (it’ll make sense in a bit):
As we are well into the New Year, I decided to make myself a resolution and do something that I’ve long wanted to do but couldn’t for various reasons—I and my girlfriend have signed up for ballroom dance lessons!
Now, now, before you all start worrying that Larsen has caught “teh ghey”, hear me out on this! I think ballroom dance is something all my readers should do—the ideal masculine figure on this website is the Barbaric Gentleman, after all.
Besides, dance is a great form of “informal exercise“, which is something I always advocate you do in addition to formal, structured exercise. It’s a good place for a single guy to meet girls (believe me, if I was single, I wouldn’t be within a few weeks of taking this dance class), and last but certainly not least, women just find a man who can dance to be sexy—taking a woman out onto the dance floor, and dancing well, will trigger that adolescent Disney Princess fantasy they have deep down in the back of their heads, and basically put you 75% of the way into the bedroom…I say as I extrapolate from seeing the effect that other men dancing have on women, as I’m still a novice.
With all this being said, let us talk about the unfortunate fact that amongst American men, there is that underlying belief that “…dancing is for fags!” My question is: why?
The most casual glance at women-targeted media shows that women find a man who does ballroom dancing, beckoning the woman to “follow his lead” to be intensely sexual. That alone should be a reason to dance, and if not, how about the fact that multiple orders of warrior elites required the man to dance, poetry, or do some other form of “soft” activity?
But no, “hurr hurr dancing is for fags”.
Friends of mine from other cultures have on a few occasions asked me to explain the Western man’s (And the American/Anglosphere man’s in particular) antipathy to not just dance, but “high culture” on the whole—and yes, in my day-to-day dealings it astounds a disturbing number of people that I can be a brawny, bass voiced masculine man who also reads, likes classical music, and can expound on the virtues of various styles of painting, to name a few “frou-frou” things that I get into on the regular. Despite this, I’ve never really had an answer to this question. So for this article, I decided to research why this is the case.
As most of you should know, almost all classical music, operas, ballets, paintings, and etc. were created by men, so the hatred of “high culture” is clearly not something inherently masculine. What is worth pointing out is that high culture has almost always been seen as aristocratic and thus in the wake of multiple monarchies being overthrown in the 19th and 20th centuries, perhaps the arts were stigmatized as being “decadent”. However, this doesn’t quite explain the antipathy for dance, as forms of dance are found amongst both the aristocracy and the poorest of peasants.
Keeping that in mind, atempting to answer the question of why American men so virulently hate dance is substantially murkier: perhaps that has something to do with the Puritan roots of the United States, which might have given “the Pilgrim Fathers” reasons to reject forms of dance for various reasons: Morris dancing for being too British, and various continental forms of dancing such as the Volta or Quadrilles for being too…Papist?
This is just idle conjecture, but bear in mind the Puritans were in theory against any sort of frivolous activity and I can surmise that they might have disliked dance even more than sports, as it is a physical activity that doesn’t even have any masculine traits—such as violence, aggression, or competition/”gameness”. Indeed, even in the back of my mind I had to reason that ballroom dance was more masculine than ballet or some other style strictly because it by default involves a woman and thus by default I’m less likely to catch the gay.
Ultimately, my research was inconclusive and I couldn’t find a definitive answer as to when dance became seen as effeminate and unmasculine (however, I did learn that many of America’s Founding Fathers have been confirmed to have been avid dancers, which sort of proves that this is a relatively recent paradigm). Regardless, this is an undeniable phenomenon…for K-Selected men in the US, anyway.
Yeah, I’m not the only one to notice that nobody mocks black or Hispanic men for dancing. Could that be because of a Jewish media conspiracy to desexualize white men? I wouldn’t argue that, mainly because I’m not a blithering idiot, but this is a noticeable media trend (as part of a larger meme of saying that “the ice people” have boring sex lives and are not attractive.)
If you read my work, you know that I’m not the type to demand that somebody do something in the SJW mold to magically end this forced de-sexualization. Instead, if you complain about how white men are mocked for dancing, maybe you should learn how to dance and prove that you can be a masculine and sexually attractive man while still doing this “soft” activity.
Reclaim your sexuality, learn new skills, and have women fall at your feet. The desexualization of white men just may end if you heed this advice.